When do you take control of a situation and when do you give the control to others?
Definitions of being in control:
1. To exercise authoritative or dominating influence over
2. To adjust to a requirement; regulate
3. To hold in restraint
4. To reduce or prevent the spread of…
Learning to take control involves looking at ideas and perceptions about ourselves and others. We all acquire baggage along the journey of aging. Taking control of our lives implies a willingness to look at and rid ourselves of this dead weight.
Being in control of your life provides wisdom that comes from using your mind, heart and spirit. Sometimes being in control means giving the control to others who are more qualified to help along the journey of aging and changing. Humans are not perfect. Stop expecting others to be the people you want them to be. Concentrate on yourself, not them.
Many things that happen in life can disrupt our emotional health and lead to strong feelings of sadness, stress or anxiety. These things include:
• Being laid off from your job
• Getting a job promotion
• Having a child leave or return home
• Dealing with the death of a loved one
• Getting divorced or married
• Suffering an illness or an injury
• Experiencing money problems
• Inheriting money
“Good” changes can be just as stressful as “bad” changes
Your body responds to the way you think, feel and act. This is known as the mind/body connection. During times of stress and anxiety, the body signals something isn’t right. Pay attention to those symptoms to heal the whole person.
The following can be physical signs that your emotional health is out of balance:
• Back pain, chest pain, headaches, stiff neck, upset stomach
• Change in appetite, weight gain or loss
• Constipation or diarrhea, light headedness, shortness of breath
• Extreme tiredness, insomnia, high blood pressure
• General aches and pains, heart palpitations
Keeping these feelings inside can make the physical symptoms worse. Talk them over with a trusted friend, counselor, Doctor or/and write them down in your Journal.
How to Gain Control of Your Emotions
Controlling your emotions doesn’t mean ignoring them. It means recognizing them and acting on them. Take control of your life by becoming familiar with emotions and feelings and also taking control of them.
Basic emotions: fear, anger, joy, acceptance, surprise, sadness, disgust and anticipation.
Analyze the situation. What are you thinking? Write down the build up and the feelings along with the physical symptoms.
Learn to control your emotions after recognizing the physical symptoms which are a part of those feelings. Would it be best to rest and relax? Not to react? Remove yourself from the situation or calm down before responding? Relinquish control over the situation or take control of the situation? Is time to change your perspective, make a choice to apologize, accept yourself as you are and accept others as who they are, or take control and turn the conversation around to a more accepting and positive direction?
It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves.