1. The Meaning of Life
Does it really matter if you know the meaning of life? The greatest minds of the world have puzzled over that question. Instead of joining that quest, live life to the fullest today!
Observe the miracles in nature. Feel the cool green grass under your bare feet. During my young years, we always wore shoes for safety and good health. Maybe a meaning of life is to live with cautious gusto by feeling, seeing and hearing nature.
2. Do you ever say my life is too complicated, too tough? Choose right now to simplify your life every day. Mom used to say “Life Is Tuff – that’s tuff, spelled T-U-F-F”
I choose to simplify my life by getting rid of things that I was saving just in case they would be useful at some time. That very large black purse was too big when I received it as a gift 20 years ago. It’s still too oversized and bulky. When I donated it, along with plastic bags full of other clutter, I felt happy to be able to help others who would appreciate these bits and pieces.
Excess baggage in the form of struggles from the past must go too. The past is gone, done, over with — move forward. Your past is always going to be the way it was – So stop trying to change it!
The 5th grade teacher who repeatedly struck my right hand with a ruler because I was not rounding out the top of the cursive letter “a”, no longer has power over my handwriting. It’s way past time to let her and the situation rest in peace, in the past. (Easier said than done!)
3. Happiness Doesn’t Care How You Get There
How many people think happiness comes from controlling self and others? What an excellent premise, until “others” is added to the actions. The only person you can control is yourself. If disappointment is your goal, then try changing someone and see what happens.
4. Risk taking
Risk taking is so scary that it seems less dangerous to stay in that dead end job, suffer through an unrewarding marriage, or live in an unsafe neighborhood, then to take the risk of making changes. Staying also carries risks. So either way, risk taking is involved.
People who are influential in your life will push for you to follow the path they think is best for you. Ask yourself if it feels comfortable for you. The opinion that counts is your inner gut feeling. Yes, good friends can be invaluable with their loving attention to your dilemma. They are not as detached as a therapist is, so either way a personal discussion with others carries risks— sometimes very worthwhile risks to guide you in decision making.
5. If you want to be an author, then be an author.
Be what you want to be. Love yourself enough to be the best you can be. Nothing comes easy, but goals won’t come at all if you don’t go after them with determination, commitment, and confidence.
Unfulfilled dreams can be haunting. Use creativity, combined with experiences, to take the risk. If you think successful people sit back and complain while others made them successful; get a grip on reality! Winners work hard and long to be victorious experts in their chosen field. Overnight success happens only in fairy tales and trashy novels. Take a risk. What’s the worst that can happen?
6. Procrastination is the art of keeping up with yesterday.
Some people learn how to overcome procrastination and others continue to suffer by constantly putting things off. Chronic procrastinators admit this style of living can destroy self-confidence, relationships, health, and finances.
7. The surest way to failure is trying to please everyone.
People pleasers never learned to say NO with conviction. Set boundaries and follow through. If you are busy pleasing others, who is pleasing you?
8. Well behaved men and women rarely make history.
Accentuate the positive. Be known for the good things you do. By the time history is published you will be too dead to know if you made the cut.
9. Opportunity knocks often. How often are you home?
Listen for opportunities, ready yourself to explore the possibilities, write a pro and con list, then decide on a plan of action or non-action.
10. No matter how successful and famous you become, the size of your funeral will still depend upon the weather.